From my personal blog at:
http://thirtysomethingdesi.blogspot.com
Is it harder for women to make friends with other women after they hit their thirties? One of my fellow single thirty-something girl friend claimed that this was the case. Her logic goes something like this: The likelihood of a woman in her thirties being married is higher. Therefore, it follows that the majority of thirty-something women are already married, and they would be busy juggling not only a job, but a husband, kids, and possibly parent-in-laws and various other family responsibilities. If the married thirty-something woman does go out with the gals for a night out, it would be an infrequent occurence. So where does that leave us - the cohort of
single thirty-something women?
Lately, it seems as though our already small circle of friends have been diminishing. And we have found it difficult to replenish the group. I find I can only smile at someone at the gym one too many times without coming across as some nutcase stalker!
Now, don't get me wrong. I do have a boyfriend, and we do spend time together (after ten years together, I would rather spend time elsewhere, but that's a whole different story for another day!). But seriously, there is only so much I can take of him in a week. I need my women friends - gals I can shop and lose my money with, dine out and forget my diet plans with, gossip and be nasty with, and be simply ridiculous with. So when I find my gal support diminishing with friends gettting married and suddenly getting too busy to meet up as frequently, or moving away, I get a tad bit worried.
Now, I just cannot understand why the state of marriage suddenly changes everything. If I get married, I imagine I would still want to get away from the husband and the home every now and then, as I do today. Does that sound so very bad?
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:)) Marriage or anything else will change things for anyone who will let any external circumstance or institution change anything for them.
Its abt the person, Logic Girl. Maybe you should look out for gals more like yourself - and married or not. Thats not imp. :)
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Lots of married women work and they are not childish enough to carry such belittling ideas.
Your blog was an amateurish work with lots of immature ideas.
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Nah girl, just watch "sex and the city". Go the Samantha way, its lotsa fun.
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Logicgirl,
It is not a question of 30s and friendship but more of married females befriending single females (highly unlikely, cos of the jealousy, insecurity and suspicion factor that the mrs's have for the misses)! Check my blog at :
Women Are Their Own Foes!
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i recommend this post!
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that is exactly true...many of my friends hwo are 24, 25 are getting married now and they just stop calling as frequently as before...we are not able to have fun or shopping or for that case even meeting those married friends has become difficult...
this doenst happen with guys when they are married!
my BF meets his married friends almost every weekend...but i m not able to!
cheers
sophia
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