Females and Friendship
From my personal blog at: http://thirtysomethingdesi.blogspot.com
Is it harder for women to make friends with other women after they hit their thirties? One of my fellow single thirty-something girl friend claimed that this was the case. Her logic goes something like this: The likelihood of a woman in her thirties being married is higher. Therefore, it follows that the majority of thirty-something women are already married, and they would be busy juggling not only a job, but a husband, kids, and possibly parent-in-laws and various other family responsibilities. If the married thirty-something woman does go out with the gals for a night out, it would be an infrequent occurence. So where does that leave us - the cohort of single thirty-something women?
Lately, it seems as though our already small circle of friends have been diminishing. And we have found it difficult to replenish the group. I find I can only smile at someone at the gym one too many times without coming across as some nutcase stalker!
Now, don't get me wrong. I do have a boyfriend, and we do spend time together (after ten years together, I would rather spend time elsewhere, but that's a whole different story for another day!). But seriously, there is only so much I can take of him in a week. I need my women friends - gals I can shop and lose my money with, dine out and forget my diet plans with, gossip and be nasty with, and be simply ridiculous with. So when I find my gal support diminishing with friends gettting married and suddenly getting too busy to meet up as frequently, or moving away, I get a tad bit worried.
Now, I just cannot understand why the state of marriage suddenly changes everything. If I get married, I imagine I would still want to get away from the husband and the home every now and then, as I do today. Does that sound so very bad?
Is it harder for women to make friends with other women after they hit their thirties? One of my fellow single thirty-something girl friend claimed that this was the case. Her logic goes something like this: The likelihood of a woman in her thirties being married is higher. Therefore, it follows that the majority of thirty-something women are already married, and they would be busy juggling not only a job, but a husband, kids, and possibly parent-in-laws and various other family responsibilities. If the married thirty-something woman does go out with the gals for a night out, it would be an infrequent occurence. So where does that leave us - the cohort of single thirty-something women?
Lately, it seems as though our already small circle of friends have been diminishing. And we have found it difficult to replenish the group. I find I can only smile at someone at the gym one too many times without coming across as some nutcase stalker!
Now, don't get me wrong. I do have a boyfriend, and we do spend time together (after ten years together, I would rather spend time elsewhere, but that's a whole different story for another day!). But seriously, there is only so much I can take of him in a week. I need my women friends - gals I can shop and lose my money with, dine out and forget my diet plans with, gossip and be nasty with, and be simply ridiculous with. So when I find my gal support diminishing with friends gettting married and suddenly getting too busy to meet up as frequently, or moving away, I get a tad bit worried.
Now, I just cannot understand why the state of marriage suddenly changes everything. If I get married, I imagine I would still want to get away from the husband and the home every now and then, as I do today. Does that sound so very bad?
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